Tuesday, November 7

a celebration


The church was packed out, all the seats were filled and the aisles were crammed with people . There were tears, laughter and applause. Music played as everybody filed out. Afterwards, my head span as I talked to so many people. Famous directors, old babysitters, playschool friend, college friends, cameramen, and people I had never met before. It grew colder, so we moved on to the function room that we had hired. It was not a wake, it was a celebration of life party, where everyone talked about mum and how lovely she was. We had blown up lots of photos and stuck them to the walls, there were flowers and wine, and crowds of people. There were people that I wanted to talk to, but never even saw in the crush of people that had come to remember my mother.

Afterwards, we went home, me, Carlo and Skye, my 3 brothers and partners, Dad, his best friend and one of my best friends. There was a rose bush waiting outside the house with a card attatched, instructing me to plant this rose called ‘lovely lady’ because that’s what my mum was.
At the table that seats five we squashed in 9 of us and ate roast chicken and potatoes with salad. We moved into the living room, fragrant with more flowers that its ever seen.

We took turns playing the piano, eighties pop songs, classical pieces and Disney tunes. We played badly, made mistakes and ceased up halfway through songs, but it made us smile and distracted us.

It was a sad, surreal, beautiful, appropriate, fitting send off for someone that we just can’t quite believe is really gone, someone that will never be forgotten by hundreds of people.

12 comments:

  1. Sounds like a beautiful farewell for your mum and reading all your precious stories I think she more than deserved it. Take care!

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  2. What a beautiful tibute to your Mum. The next time you visit England the flowers you planted will have blossomed into something quite lovely, I'm sure.

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  3. It's lovely how you all celebrate life instead of death when a beloved leaves us. I always thought that is th ebest way to give tribute and say properly "goodbye, we'll miss you so much but we all think of you"
    Stay strong

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  4. What a lovely way to say goodbye I'm sure she would have loved to be there with you all and enjoy the party. As I'm also sure that she will continue to live on in you and everyone that loved her. Stay strong and remember that you will always have a friend in Positano that will eat your lovely cheesecake and give you a hug when you need it. Love to all Lara xxx

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  5. Your Mum would have been looking down and smiling. It's nice to remember those that we love in celebration rather than with sadness. Remember that all your friends are thinking of you, Melissa xx

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  6. That sounds like a wonderful celebration for your mum! That rosebush will make you smile for years to come.

    I saw Katie Melua in concert a few months back; she has a lovely voice.

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  7. That's how it should be done: Not mourning the loss, but celebrating each day you got. Celebrating that you were blessed to have such a wonderful person in your life, that you had the pleasure to know her. Focus on the good things.

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  8. Sounds like a nice celebration of your mom.

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  9. So sorry to hear that's she's gone. So glad to hear that you have many people around to comfort you and remember her with. Good thing she left you with so many of her attributes, which you will pass to your daughter. The circle of life continues. My thoughts are with you.

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  10. oops, no spelling check before i hit 'publish', doh!

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  11. It sounds like your Mom was a wonderful person who touched the lives of many people. What a wonderful way to remember her.

    Cyn

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